Mysteries of Life

5 years ago, I would have brushed off a younger guy’s advances like dandruff on the shoulders.

Today, however, I find myself considering the possibility…perhaps because, guys my age are either married, married with kid(s), or otherwise, unavailable.

A few younger guys have took notice of me since I came over to Miri, but it’s been light-hearted, chummy advances of which the attention I enjoyed. Until recently, none of them have managed to capture my attention the way they intended to but fortunately, in the end, these guys turned out to be reliable friends.

2 weeks ago, I met this presentable young gentleman, in the corridors of my office. I recently moved job roles, and as such, I was making several trips to move my stuff in boxes from my previous office on the 2nd floor to my new office room on the 3rd floor.

He bumped into me carrying my box on my last trip, and offered his help to carry it for me to my room. We connected in conversation immediately, and introduced ourselves. After I thanked him for his assistance, I then carried on with the days work.

2 days later, we bumped into each other again. This time, it was at the assembly point in the car park during the fire alarm (it was a real fire alarm, not a drill!). We chatted for almost 30 minutes before I left him in the car park, to join some colleagues who called me to join them to sneak out for an early lunch. After all, the red fire engine was still out there, trying to figure out what burnt, and no one knew how long that was going to take!

2 days after that, I received an email from him, asking me if I was the one he met recently. We “talked” on the email for awhile, and then he asked me out for coffee that evening, which I accepted and we spent a good 2 hours at CB. He is based in KL on project-based work, and was in Miri for 2 weeks on an offshore assignment.

That weekend, he even called me from the satellite phone when he was offshore.

For the rest of last week, he took every possible chance to ask me out for lunches, dinners and suppers, and every possible opportunity I had, I was game. During office hours, we MSN-ed and as a result, I was pretty inefficient in my work last week! It reminded me of the fun in the chase I experienced in my younger days.

He has been a perfect gentleman; sweet, kind, thoughtful and decent, and yes, he is younger than I am…a good 4 years too. In addition to that, I knew it was just too much to ask for a “simple” guy. There is no such thing as a simple guy today. With yet more chapters unrevealed, I will wait to see if I am meant to learn the many complicated chapters of his life.

It would be almost unwise to start anything between us, as it would be almost impossible to maintain it when we are living so far apart.

Tonight, he has flown off to London for a week for a course. Will we continue where we left off when he comes back? Or will things between us lose its momentum and cool off?

Geographically challenged, I am doubtful that anything fruitful will come out of this, as I feel that although there’s always Air Asia where “Everyone Can Fly”, to become main contributors to Air Asia’s revenue is hardly a real solution.

In spite of everything, I cherish the smile he has put on my face, and the warmth he has shown me in the last 2 weeks. His sense of humour captivates me, yet the mysterious chapters of his life uneases me.

But I thank him for showing me a wonderful time, and am glad that I had that chance to have met someone like him.